When My Son Started Talking… I Got Scared!

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So many times, we wish to hear our children speak, we hope they can unlock their tongues and express what’s inside them… But when this actually happens, we discover that we are not always ready!

When your child begins to speak and express himself — whether through direct words, drawings, or behavior — sometimes he says things that hurt, or talks about things we thought he had forgotten, or didn’t even notice. And sometimes he expresses himself in ways that are unclear or surprising, and we get shocked.

This shock can make us reject what he says, unintentionally. We may respond: “How can you say that?” or “Who taught you such words?” or “You understood it wrong!” … and then he might withdraw again.

But the truth is, the very moment the child speaks, even in his own way, is a golden moment. A moment we must capture and embrace — not reject — no matter how painful or stressful it may feel to us.

The child who has started to talk needs to feel: “I hear you,” “I’m with you,” “I care about you,” more than he needs explanations, corrections, or judgment. Sometimes the biggest support we can offer is simply to listen.

This doesn’t mean everything the child says is right. It just means that in the first moment, before we correct or guide or fix, we must listen deeply.

And afterwards, we can say: “I hear you. No matter what you said, you have a safe space here.” Then we can explain more, share our perspective, or ask: “Would you like to tell me more about what happened?”

When we give them a listening ear and an open heart, they also learn to listen to us. Communication with our children is not always easy… but let’s practice it together.

So if one day your son or daughter surprised you with words that felt strange or shocking, don’t rush to respond… say instead: “Tell me more.” ❤🏡